Keneth Mailhot: Mine took a little over a month that is with one child. But it depends on what is to be divided(if anything).
Manual Burtis: varies. if its a mutual thing than it could go alot faster. if one of you doesnt want the dv then it could take a long time. in some places they will order mandatory counseling before they will even consider granting a dissolution. also if there are children involved it could get lengthly. they may grant the divorce but then you have to continue to go to court about chil/spousal support , custody and visitation. so it really does vary. also some attys move more swiftly.
Jade Ohno: It depends on your state. The Divorce itself does not usually take long - my state has a 90 day cooling off period once its filed, after that you sign a doc and the divorce gets granted if neither is contesting it. All in all it took 4.5 months. The rest of the stuff is what people seem to be talking about below which is your settlement and cus! tody agreement. That largely depends on you and soon to be ex. You don't have to have an attorney to file, but should have some legal advice on these two matters. Some battle it out for years, some come to agreement right away. Hope this helps. My state is Pa by the way....Show more
Gaynell Pizzaro: your D!ck in a box of course!
Antone Youla: I read through the entire question, but for the life of me, I can't figure out why this is stressful to you. Your husband does NOT have a child with anyone, because this person is not a child, he's an adult! Your husband has no financial obligation to him. His obligation at this point is entirely emotional. When I was 18, I was attending college a thousand miles away from my father. We talked by phone maybe once a week. Your husband's relationship with his son need not be anything more than that. This guy went through his whole childhood without his father, so there's nothing he truly needs him for now. It would be ! wise of you to accept that, and stop stressing out about a sit! uation that shouldn't really be impacting you much at all.
Phil Kuarez: Anywhere from 3 months to six years. A non-contested divorce with no property division or children can go very quickly.
Bianca Lannier: Sweetie I feel sorry for the son because just imagine how hard all of this was on him being without a Dad and his mothers side of the family keeping them apart for all of those years. He wanted to meet his father and that is only normal for him needing to do that and I am sure that it was very awkward for him to come forward as he did. I realize that this is a shock to both you and your husband but I honestly do not believe that he is a threat to you in any way. Give yourself some time to process the shock of things and maybe you and your husband could both go talk with a counselor to know how to properly deal with this situation. Someday this young man have his own children and desire to have the both of you be part of their lives depending on how you rela! te with the situation now. This young man is only innocent and probably means no harm by wanting you to contact his mother if the two of you have any questions about why all of this happened. The only thing that you and your husband can do if the dna comes back that he is your husbands child is to support one another and continue to love one another because your husband did not know. Allow the father and the son to connect and be a part of bringing maybe something wonderful from the situation and give it a chance.
Kellie Waycott: i personally dont like it as i have my own frnds and he has his own frnds
Margart Stimpert: we share an email account because he hates computers and never wants to check it, so i have to do it.( If you want to be able to "creep around" you shouldnt be in a relationship to begin with.)
Lorine Helwick: Why are you raging? It is nobodies fault. The mother was young and impressionable, and had to do what her parents told her to do! . You can't fault her for being young, just like you can't fault your ! husband for not knowing about this boy (man), and you surely can't fault the son for being born. Get the DNA test and take it from there. But until those results come back, it is your duty as a wife to stand by your husband...this can't be easy on him either. Suddenly having an 18 year old man pop up and say, "Hi Dad!", is not something that happens every day. He may wish it never happened, but that isn't going to make the child go away.Why do you resent the child? It surely isn't his fault that he was born,and it's not his fault that you and your husband are having difficulty conceiving. It's not easy to accept another child that your husband had with another woman (I know, my husband has 3 from previous relationships, one of which we weren't sure was his until 3 years ago) but you have to take it day by day and you will learn to accept it and him.Since this is causing damage in your marriage, you need to see a marriage counselor. Seriously. You both need to talk t! o someone who can help you sort out your feelings about this and help you stay together.
Sibyl Siwik: You have to realize this isn't the boys fault and it was a mistake made 18 yrs ago long before you ever knew your hubby. Get the DNA test so the truth is known. It was very wrong of the girls family to never let him know of his son they lost a lot of time together that is the sad thing with the story. I am sorry about your infertility problems and not to sound light hearted about it but you do have other options available to conceive or have a family without giving birth at all. Adoption is a great way to have a family and to give love and a family to a child who otherwise wouldn't have either. Consider adoption for your fertility issue and welcome your step son into your lives. I agree you don't have to meet his mom she didn't feel it necessary to have your hubby as part of the childs life all these years she needn't be involved now.
Irving Jordahl: it depen! ds on how long you been married, the property, cars, amount of debt, h! ow much money you do or dont have, the number of kids you have and if you agree on everything or not. anywhere from 3 months to 3 or 4 years! good luck!
Alvaro Oare: Don't be upset, or mad or any of that. Your husband loves you and is obviously with you now and not that other women. You've been married for 10 years!!! Mistakes happen, in this case it was a big mistake... at least his son is 18... and not 5 lol that would be worse don't you think? What happened in his past happened in the past. Its hard to let go and deal with but sometimes you just have to. I would def. make sure to get a DNA test before anything but at the same time its not like it really matters because your husband won't have to pay child support. I hope you and your husband can conceive and have a beautiful baby but if by chance it doesn't happen, there is always adoption. your husband loves you and did nothing wrong. Its something that happened in his past and nothing can be changed now. He is pr! obably more stressed out than you so be easy on him, he just found out that he has a son that is 18 years old!!! Put yourself in his shoes and think about what he must be going thru. Good Luck girl, I hope everything works out. There is no need for either one of you to make contact with this women, you need to tell this boy that you and his Dad are married and living your own life. Ugh I feel so bad for you but at the same time I don't think you should be so upset. Watch Elf, that women found out about him and was happy about it. Just hang in there, it can only go up from here.
Ermelinda Stalnaker: Try to look at it from the son's point of view. It is just as devastating for him to find out that he has a birth father he never knew about. Right now it is all new to everybody. Give it time and the relationship will fall into the proper perspective. If you ha ve a good marriage, it won't hurt for both of you to have contact with the birth mother for the boy's sake. S! he doesn't get to be your knew best friend, but you will probably devel! op a relationship more like a distant relative. Jealousy has no place here. The boy is just trying to fill the holes in his life and he & your husband may or may not hit it off over a period of time. They will eventually settle down to whatever works best for them. Your role is to be understanding and realize that this does not take anyhing away from your relationship with your husband.
Providencia Serpe: A "stimulus package"?A "performance bonus"?Any other ideas?
Nicolasa Henke: Mistakes happen, especially when you are young.You cant blame your husband for something that happened when he was young and careless. Neither can you blame the young person who says your husband is his father. I can understand it's a bolt from the blue and a shock, and especially made more painful because of your difficulties in having a child together. Stand by your husband, what happened happened, you cant change that. Your husband needs your support at this time. It probably h! asnt been easy either on the kid growing up not knowing about his dad. Its up to you guys though to decide on contact with the mother - I wouldnt really encourage that.Look at things positively - this young adult if he is your husband's son (get the DNA test) is your step son and part of your family. Enjoy getting to know him. I'm sure you will, once you both come to terms with the situation and make adjustments.
Floyd Labuda: I can understand your fears resentment and jealousy. You husband's time will be divided when he starts including his son (if it is his son) in his life. Because you can't have a child at the time you wonder if your husband will stop trying because he already has one. Too you might feel inadequate because another woman has already done what you feel you are failing to do. Am I right?Try to remember that all of you are victims. The child and your husband are totally innocent. They didn't know! The woman on the other hand, at first, followed! her mother's advice but once she was of age she should have told him s! o I place 14 years of blame on here. If I am right about why you are feeling the way you feel, those are your insecurities. Don't put that on your husband. Do you have a brother? How would you react if it happened to a brother of yours? You would be supportive, you would listen, you would comfort. Do the same thing for your husband because he is your friend and trust that your husband loves you. Don't be the bitter angry wife right now. Be his friend. Right now it is about addressing a mess that neither of you created.Get that DNA test. You two can't decide on the next steps until you do. I am sure your husband is just as frustrated as you. Don't make him frustrated with you because of your reaction to this. Don't push him away or try to make him decide on you or his child. The child only wants to be with his dad.Imagine you have children from a previous marriage and the new wife of your ex told him he couldn't see his children. How would your children feel? It hurts I know! . It hurts bad but pray and be strong for your husband and welcome his new son. First, let you fears be made known to your husband and you two should sit down and talk about how you will proceed so that you are on the same page. How often will he visit? Will he go to visit his son without you? Will the mother be invited to events?The funny thing is, if the DNA test says he is NOT the father you are stressing for nothing. Get the test babe!! Get it soon!! I wish you well....Show more
Torri Tippey: it means they have nothing to hide, more power to them
Darcie Peraha: I don't even want to vomit when I need to. Same email address is fine. No I am not jealous that they would be tight like that. I think if it works for them, they should enjoy it.I don't understand why they would need a joint one if frends and family can add both seperately to their email list and they can receive the same information.If its joint, do they have a specific time for reading it and the! y can only read it when both of them are there?...Show more
Alexa! nder Villas: It's lameAnd hard to creep around
Toya Braskett: If the two events desire the divorce and the themes have been agreed upon its pronounced as an uncontested divorce and it would not require a criminal professional, in basic terms contested ones do. he will prepare divorce papers (alongside with economic/debt preparation, who gets what variety of difficulty), document them on the courthouse and serve his spouse. If she indications a court date would be scheduled which they the two could attend then the decide will make the determination on the divorce. The length of time actual relies upon on the state you're in, if there are any waiting sessions, etc....Show more
Hal Palowoda: your package :) and a bee gee's cd
Floy Fague: no way to answer this without more information. What state? what situation? children involved? etc
Blaine Connett: dose it make you annoyed like wont to vomit or do it make you a little bit jelous because they tight lik! e that?not people who have a joint email and then each have they ownbut couples who thats it, just one account.
Cassidy Pangrazio: hmm...it is hard to say. Even though my husband and I have a "joint" e-mail account, the one we use for the online bill pay, kid stuff...etc. Then we have our own and we know each others passwords. So, are they really separate? It's hard to say. I think it is important to have some individuality though. I know that I can have any online friend without being questioned about it because I am trusted (and he is too). I think it is annoying when a couple has NO boundaries...as if they are siamese twins or something. We need to be our own people...marriage doesn't mean get sewn together and have no life....Show more
Micah Schwarcz: In most states, 90 days or so. Depends on if you have any disputes, kids, property to settle, etc.
Gilberto Cratin: Doesn't make me jealous at all, and to me doesn't mean they are tight. If anythin! g I think it means they have no trust in one another, and they have no ! individuality. I could have the same email as my man, but why would I want to?? You need to be a couple, but you also need to have your own identity in the relationship also, and I think that is carrying it abit far.
Lourie Mcroberts: Mine took 1 month. With kids
Lulu Bukowiecki: She was going to be appointed to Secretary of Sex but she didn't have enough tax problems.
Delphine Cajka: The jealousy must be the worst because why couldn't you of had his baby, I can only imagine how hard this must be and cannot tell you what to do or think because I have never been thru such a terrible thing. Maybe you should consider that this could really be a second chance for you and your hubby to treat him as though he is your child and welcome him in, it isn't his fault after all of how he was conceived and you build a relationship with him I am sure you have a lot to offer as a person.
Julienne Poplawski: need more details if you want a more accurate answer. A d! ivorce can take anywhere from 1 month to years,depending on the extenuating circumstances.
Justin Casten: WoW tough situation. Now, is your husband just saying he wished this never happened because of you, or does he not really want to know the child? Whatever you decide it's going to be unfair to someone. I'm sorry to say, but only say, due to the feelings your expressing.My friends brother just found out he had a 18 yr old daughter and not only that but she had a 3 yr old son. He became a Granddad overnight. He was shocked at first and did the DNA tests and he took responsibility. He welcomed them all into his life and I have seen him change for the better. Now, I think you and your husband should go take the DNA test and before you do sit down and discuss, not fight, over what you plan to do over both results; it is or it isnt his child. I also suggest you think about the child, it's not the child's fault, and I think everyone has the right to know and understand ! where they came from. The mother should have stepped up and said someth! ing to your husband a long time ago, and that should be brought up, but I am sure she didn't because she was scared her family would do something to the baby, meaning put it up for adoption. Good luck to you and I hope you and your husband can work this out.Take Care!
Betsey Muehlbach: My ex and I did, we got e-mails from friends, family. We would come home from work and check it. It was fine.
Blair Abdi: we receive the notice last April, we never had the DNA yet because he is in another state, but we met him right away, we flew him here to meet him. He doesn't look a whole lot like my husband but resembles him in some ways.my husband is 35 and this happened 18 yrs ago in high school.This girl was a girl he dated on a off in school, he only had intercourse one time with her and they were both in other relationships, she claims she was a virgin, he was the only one and he claims he didn't know better, that was only his 2nd time having intercourse and then he left! that state and he moved a few months after this had happened.The girl was 16 and her parents were very upset when she was pregnant, they refused to tell my husbands family or him and later sent the girl to boarding school for a few months, then they decided to put the baby up for adoption and eventually kept the child and decided never to tell my husband.He moved out of state but his family was still living there where the girl was for many years but never were told.Now we have been married for 10 years, we have infertility problems, I have Pcos (a hormone problem causing infertility) and my husband has Chromes disease ( intestine disease) he was tested in 2003 and he has a very low sperm count, i recently have learned about the Pcos and so we are trying to conceive but ever have.Since we have found out about this 18 yr old, we have been very stressed and it never gets easier. The child wants us to have contact with his mom and we both agree not to want any contact. I hav! e such a hard time with this, I'm devastated and it causes arguments al! l the time.My husband says he wishes this never happened but cannot change the fact, we want a DNA and will get it but how do i deal with all this resentment, anger, jealously, and rage,not only towards the mother but my feelings for this child are not good! I love my husband dearly but this has taken a terrible affect on me. I hope there is someone to help me on this....Show more
Tana Dumoulin: How the hell are we supposed to know?
Otto Lingafelt: depends where you live, if there is any contest over posessions or children.Provide more information, please
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